Meet Buster: My Big, Fat Tumor

…still coming off a high from U2 last night.  It was a family plan to enjoy it together, however, Morgan wasn’t able to make this one.  He entrusted Kasha to Nick and I and we got out for a nice dinner then met up with Michael and Shauna for the U2 concert.   UNBELIEVABLE!  What a great concert!    Next one, red zone- with Morgan!

Today- is a beautiful, happy day!  I’ve learned a lot over the last four months, at the top, celebrate the good and enjoy the happy, up days.  We are celebrating today!

Morgan’s surgery went well and he is in great spirits.  When he called me just before lunch time he was in such a good mood.  He was full of joy and so alive~  it reminded me of the days he was hitchhiking and had just come off a great ride or had reached his destination early.

You go Morgan!  : )  I love you.  Let’s keep celebrating!

-adjective
1. possessing or exhibiting courage or courageous endurance.
2. invulnerable to fear or intimidation: “audacious explorers”; “fearless reporters and photographers”; “intrepid pioneers”.
3. Archaic. excellent; fine; admirable.

-noun
4. a brave person
5. a warrior

–verb (used with object)
6. to meet or face courageously: to brave misfortunes.
7. to defy; challenge; dare.

Synonyms:
1. bold, intrepid, daring, dauntless, heroic. Brave, courageous, valiant, fearless, gallant refer to confident bearing in the face of difficulties or dangers. Brave is the most comprehensive: it is especially used of that confident fortitude or daring that actively faces and endures anything threatening. Courageous implies a higher or nobler kind of bravery, esp. as resulting from an inborn quality of mind or spirit that faces or endures perils or difficulties without fear and even with enthusiasm. Valiant implies a correspondence between an inner courageousness and external deeds, particularly of physical strength or endurance. Fearless implies unflinching spirit and coolness in the face of danger. Gallant implies a chivalrous, impetuous, or dashing bravery.

~ Good ole Webster dictionary~

Morgan~ our living picture of brave, courageous, valiant…

I am in awe~ and amazed everyday ~ at your bravery.  Your Courage!  I am so proud of you.  Everyday is a fight and you continue pressing on.  You inspire me!  I love you- Go Morgan!!

*****

It’s a roller coaster ride~ and it’s miserable !!!  … so much can change in a day.

He has been in the hospital since Friday, October 9.  He mentioned in a previous post how the week prior had been quite scary- he was very weak and had been very ill.  Friday he was picked up by a non-emergency ambulance service and brought to the hospital to start chemo.  He was too weak and hadn’t eaten much during that week he needed to gain strength and see what was going on before chemo started.

Monday rolled around and he was feeling better, had friends coming and wanted to get chemo going.  The chemo began.  He had a great week of chemo and was feeling well, received his last dose of chemo on Friday and Friday night went downhill quickly and hard.  His fever reached 103.5.  Morgan had developed another MAJOR infection.  It was very dangerous, but was caught and treated quickly and it is being studied further, but is managed again.  He is on an antibiotic, had a transfusion and he is gaining strength again.

His close friends Dan and Ben were here for the weekend.  They were able to have some good laughs and I know it meant so much to Morgan to have them in town and to be able to visit with them.  I was delighted to get to share in some of the conversation Sunday evening.  I really wanted to meet these friends Morgan talks of often.  They both have been so good to him and their journey together as friends has had influence on his life and shaped Morgan’s world.

In looking through my photos for a picture to post- I am amazed at how time has flown by- yet stood still.  I can’t believe it’s been four months- all that has changed and happened in four months.  And then I think our world has stopped- there is loss, pain, mourning this new life with cancer.  I need to unload for a moment.  Cancer Sucks!  It’s horrible!  Cancer is what has been tormenting Morgan for all these years.

I know that it was even worse than he led on because he isn’t one to complain.  We thought it was back pain from a fall.  It was cancer- that makes me SO MAD.  Cancer has been living inside of my brother- robbing him of fully LIVING.  He lost years to pain.  This diagnosis has changed us.  You live differently.  We have had to let go of expectations, making plans and celebrations have become so different in just four months.   We have had so many fun things planned to look forward to and they ALL have been rearranged or postponed.

I’m learning a new brave- outside the box.  We will press on and keep making plans!   We support your dreams and believe in your future Morgan!  : )

Tomorrow is a big day, surgery and some major changes.  They will replace his kidney stints and remove his urethra catheter to replace it with a suprapubic catheter out his belly.  This will be better for long term and it is believed will help cut down on infection.   In the next couple days his  (CBC) blood count will drop  and he will go into the neutropenic stage.  This is where his white blood cell count drops and it is difficult for his body to fight infection.

If you are our praying people~ here are some requests:

* Doctors in surgery * Chemo/PacMan eating Buster & friends * Morgan~ strength, hope, courage, faith, peace, comfort, FIGHT. * Kasha- see and feel our love and appreciation and that she would have continued strength, health, peace, comfort.  * Pain management * Continued favor with doctors and nurses treating and caring for him. * Wisdom, clarity for next steps.  * Protection during Neutropenia-NO Infections!  * our Mom’s~ loyal, faithful, loving and serving.  *

Morgan is brave- over and over again~ a warrior with enduring courage.

Thank you for continuing to journey with us ~ our faithful family and friends~ Team Morgan!    : )

*Written by Mark to celebrate Morgan’s wedding toast*

My brother Morgan and I are separated in age by slightly less than 3 ½ years. By adult life standards, that’s practically the same age. Growing up, however, that span of time created a hierarchy in our brotherhood/bunkmate arrangement of which Morgan assumed the lead role.

I recall the EARLY mornings where I would awake to find Morgan perched on my bed in the room that we shared. He was looming over me- incessantly requesting my assistance with his paper route that day. It wasn’t actually help that he desired. It was companionship. I eventually gave in… most of the time.

Back in those days, paperboys had to do their own subscription fee collections- a bona fide nightmare for an introverted people pleaser like my brother. So what would he do? Drag me along. Not for muscle, but for companionship.

I knew that at the end of that abhorrent task we would go and blow the loot on video games at Alpha Beta or Appetito’s. We shared a compulsion for those “Machines” as our grandpa would call them. “Now don’t go and put all of this in The Machines!” He would admonish us anytime he handed out a little pocket change. But boy did we.  All of that and then some. Personally, I enjoyed the games that pitted us against each other, Street Fighter, Mortal Kombat, etc. On the screen our size and strength was evened up. So I could beat him pretty much all of the time. He was frustrated and would gesture physical retaliation. But I couldn’t help it. I was compelled to beat him to assert myself- even if there was some potential harm on the horizon.

And those who know Morgan well know that he also finds it very important to fiercely, albeit quietly, assert his own values in the face of potential adversity. While many of us might not relate always to his means and methods, we can recognize his passion. And his loyalty. And his strong sense of honor. In fact, the rest of should be so lucky as to emulate his commitment to family and friends. Many people say “There is nothing more important than family,” but Morgan walks the walk. He is as empathic and supportive as one can be with never a foul word to say about anyone.  I believe that people often give gifts they would cherish in the own lives.   And for those of us fortunate enough to recognize and accept it- Morgan’s companionship is his greatest gift.

In closing, I want to say to Mrs. Kasha Strub, thank you for accepting Morgan for all that he is. In good times and in bad. In sickness and in health.  God bless you both. We love you. Salud!

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This speech moved me.  It was so touching, fitting and enlightening.  Companionship; a true quality and one of my favorites of Morgan’s.  I have many sweet memories of Morgan and I just being together.  He has comforted me, been there for me, shared wisdom, made fun memories and saved me on several occasions.  I love my big, little brother~ our gentle giant.

I am reflecting on the memory of June 10, 2009 tonight.  We celebrated Morgan and Kasha getting married.  It was a sweet calm before this storm.  A long awaited day and so treasured.   I never imagined all of this.  I am broken. I am changed.  I can’t even try to help you understand, it’s truly indescribable.  

I wish I could put into words the appreciation I have for Kasha.  Morgan chose her to be his companion~ long before they wed.   She has been there for him for years and has encouraged him to follow his dreams and passions when the rest of us were scared or unsure.  She has been there for him in ways we weren’t.  We are all blessed and so thankful to have her in our family.  A forever sister to me, this one is here to stay! : )    We love you Kasha.  Thank you for all that you do~ all day, everyday.   I can’t tell you enough, but will try for the rest of my days.

I’m proud of you Morgan!  I’m blessed to call you my brother.  You continue to gift into my life; Kasha is one that I treasure.   I love you Morgan.  I am here for you.  Always!

Monster Mash

I think about writing everyday.  often.  I just don’t always know what to write…  I try to keep you up to date with details, but never have all of them.  There is so much that goes on behind the scenes- …. and when it looks like we’ve got it somewhat figured out… WE DON’T! 

Cancer sucks!  I know this in my head and my heart.  and CANCER SUCKS more. than. I. know.   You  just can’t wrap your head and heart around all that is going on in Morgan’s body, heart, head… minute by minute- everyday.  He is living it.    Please pray for;  Strength, Peace, Fight… wisdom…   God be near…  healing… 

Quick update:  Morgan checked into the hospital Saturday and stayed until Friday.  They were trying to figure out where his fever and possible infection was.  During the week they changed out his catheter 4 times.  Did a needle aspiration in his foot to biopsy/ grow a culture to check his foot.   Monday, he is scheduled to see visit the oncologist in his office.  We are waiting to hear if chemo will start this week.    

Yes, I’m a bit scattered and random.  I just wanted to touch base tell you we’re still here.  Don’t stop checking in, give up or stop praying- sometimes it’s just overwhelming and indescribable.

Let’s talk…

• * What inspires you?
• * Do you have a life lesson to share?
• * What do you treasure?
• * Do you have a favorite poem?
• * Where do you go for comfort?
• * Memories of Morgan you treasure…
• * What do you meditate on?
• * Do you have a life motto?
• * What verses bring you encouragement?
• * Do you have a prayer you pray for Morgan?
• * What would you share with him, what does he need to know?
• * Happy Birthday & Well Wishes…

Morgan is a writer, with a heart for people and their stories.  His passion is traveling, hitchhiking, meeting people from all walks of life and sharing stories.  He created a community to bring all those together: www.digihitch.com.

We all have a story and lessons we have learned along the way.  I am creating a keepsake book for Morgan from us.

This is a chance for you to share something with him.  My hope is that he will view this book for encouragement and  inspiration.  That your stories will give him happy times to reminisce and that your lessons show him a picture of hope  and courage…

Please send me whatever you would like to share; old pictures, stories, memories, words of encouragement, favorite verses, poems, things that have touched and changed your life, well wishes or anything that you would like to share with Morgan.

I need these no later than Thursday midnight please send by email:

mfrederi us@yahoo.com (mfrederi*underscore*us@yahoo.com)

It’s a Happy Birthday Celebration for Morgan!

Team Morgan~ it’s time to gather !